Succeeding to Fail

I read something the other day that made me pause and have an odd thought. The phrase made me think about how we can succeed in life, but still fail. Huh? Succeed at failing? How can you succeed and still fail? There’s a good oxymoron for you.

The reality is there are many people today who are doing exactly that, apparently being extremely successful at something, but being miserable while doing it. We have all heard about people that go to work every day – maybe a CEO, VP, or someone who has their own business and they make a lot of money, but they aren’t happy. They may seem happy, but they hate their job. They may live in a nice house, drive a nice car, have all the toys, take great vacations, and seem to have everything together. But they are miserable. There is something else they would rather be doing. I’m not saying having money or success makes you miserable. Fill in the blank with any job. Money isn’t the issue. The point is they signed up for something for the wrong reasons, and now those reasons have become a jail cell for them. They’re not sure how to get their “get out of jail free” card.

There is a movie “The Bucket List” with Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson. They both discover they are dying with cancer. Morgan Freeman is someone who has a family, kids, and seems to genuinely be happy with his life. He doesn’t have a lot of money. Jack Nicholson is CEO and a multi-millionaire that has been married and divorced three times, and has no relationship with his kids. From the start of the movie, he is an angry unhappy person. They both end up in the same hospital room together, and although Nicholson’s character is annoyed initially with Freeman’s character, they eventually form a bond as they spend each day together. Nicholson convinces Freemen to spend their last remaining days together and completing their bucket list – hence the name of the movie. 

They travel the world, sky-dive, and do things that most people could only dream to do – and they do it in less than 60 days. There is a moment where they are in the desert atop a pyramid where Freeman asks Nicholson if he has joy in his life. Nicholson says yes, however he isn’t very convincing. Then Freeman asks him does he bring joy to others in his life. Nicholson says “why don’t you ask them,” and goes onto say that his daughter hasn’t spoken to him for years.

Toward the end of the movie, Freeman says he wants to go home. The movie then shows his return home to his wife, and then sitting at the table with his entire family praying. It then moves to Nicholson at home alone. Shortly after those two scenes, Freeman dies, and Nicholson is at his funeral giving a eulogy. He says that although he only knew him for 60 days, those were the happiest days of his life. He found happiness and success with his relationship with a dying friend, and it had nothing to do with his money. Yes, it did allow them to do some unique things during that time, but the joy was about the time together and not what they were doing. It only took 60 days for Nicholson to discover what is really important in life and what isn’t. He discovered after all he had achieved in life, he had succeeded to fail.

What are you striving to achieve in life? Are your goals in align with what truly makes you happy and will bring you true joy? Our focus is on helping you develop a winning mentality and taking the right steps to achieve them. We also want you to make sure when you achieve your goals, you are focused on the ones, and you don’t reach the mountain top only to realize you have succeeded to fail.